Wednesday, March, 30, 2016 | 2:51 PM | by Pastor Rick
Are You A Leader?
What does it mean to be a spiritual leader, in your home or anywhere else? Jesus did seven things with His disciples consistently that we as parents are urged to do as well.
1. He helped them get to know God.
That’s the first thing. Dads this is your number one responsibility as a father, to help your children get to know God because eternity is in the balance – life or death, heaven or hell.
It is your job to help make sure your kids are introduced to God.
Notice in John 17:6 “I showed what You were like to those You gave Me from the world. They belong to You and You gave them to Me.” Circle “gave” and “they belonged to You.”
I want to remind you that you don’t own your kids.
They belong to God. They are not yours. They are God’s children. They were God’s before. They’ll be God’s after. God just loaned them to you for a period of time in which He wants you to parent them. And parenting, in fact all leadership responsibilities is really about stewardship. It’s saying God, I’m the manager of what You put into my care.
The second thing I want you to circle is the word “showed” V6 – “I showed what You were like to those You gave me.”
Notice He doesn’t say, “I lectured on what You were like to those You gave me.” No, it says, “I showed.” Not I preached, I sermonized, I pontificated, I lectured – I showed.
He led by example.
This is one of the most scary, sobering facts I could possibly say to all parents.
For right or wrong, for good or bad, whether you like it or not your children’s idea of God is going to be largely determined by the kind of father you are.
• If you are an impatient and demanding parent, they’re going to think God is impatient and demanding.
• And if you are distant and detached and never have time for your kids they’re going to think God is distant and detached from them.
• If you are inconsistent and unreliable, if you break your promises, they’re going to think their heavenly Father is inconsistent and unreliable and breaks His promises.
• And if you are unpleasable…? I can’t tell you how many people I know who cannot get close to God because they grew up with an unpleasable parent.
So when they pray the Lord’s prayer, “Our Father who art in heaven,” they think, “Wait a minute! If God’s like my dad or my mom, no thanks God!
Why do so many people turn away from God? I’ll tell you why and I’ve talked to lots of kids who have turned from their parents. Because they never had a good relationship with their own parents, and they can’t conceive of what it would be like to have one with a spiritual heavenly Father.
What is God really like? Well just to be very basic:
• God Is caring.
He’s always loving. He’s unconditionally loving. He’s compassionate.
• God is close.
He’s not distant. God is not far away. He’s not detached. He’s always available. He’s always accessible.
• God is consistent.
God doesn’t have good days and bad days. God isn’t moody. God isn’t capricious. One day He slaps you and the next day He’s praising you. God isn’t like that. He’s consistent.
• God is competent.
When I bring Him my problems, He can handle my problems.
If my kids are going to grow up knowing God that is the way we must be.
• I must be close.
• I must be caring.
• I must be consistent.
• I must be loving
• I must be confident.
• I must care about my kids and show them what God is like in the real sense of the word. This is what parents must model.
Why is this first issue, helping my kids get to know God the most important task in life? Why is it more important than my job, more important than my hobbies, more important than anything.? Why is that the most important thing in my life?
Because eternity rests in the balance. Heaven or hell. Life and death. Nothing else matters!