Wednesday, March, 30, 2016 | 3:27 PM | by Pastor Rick
Are You A Leader # 5
The fifth characterisitc of a spiritual leader is
5. Jesus guarded their spiritual growth. V 12
The 5th mark of a spiritual leader is protection. He guards. He protects their spiritual growth.
In John 17, verse 12 Jesus says this “While I was with them I kept them safe by the power of Your name. I protected them and not one of them was lost except Judas so the scripture would be true.”
Jesus already knew Judas was going to betray Him before it happened. That’s why He picked him. It was part of the plan. He said, I protected them. I kept them safe. Dads, as fathers, what do you do? What do you protect in your children? Three things.
1. You protect their bodies.
As they’re growing up. I’m talking about health and safety. Of course sometimes we men don’t always have good judgment that’s why you have to have a mother to tell you what might be a little bit safer. I remember one time I was teaching my son Rick how to use the chain saw. Jean came out the back door and said, “What are you doing?” I said, “Every man needs to learn how to use a chain saw.” She said, “Yeah, but at three years old?” So I was getting an early start.
2. You protect their minds.
It is your job as a father, as a spiritual leader to protect their innocence, their minds. I have to say this is the biggest task today in the culture we live in to protect the innocence of your children as they’re growing up. Children are not mini-adults. They cannot handle violence. They cannot handle sex.
They cannot handle death. These things are a heavy subject for a little mind. They are not mini-adults. So growing up, with my three kids we were very strict with what movies they could see, with what TV programs they could watch, what books and magazines they could read. We got all kinds of grief from our kids for it.
Their minds weren’t filled with garbage growing up. With vulgarities growing up. They’re going to get that soon enough in life. You don’t need it at a young age. You protect what goes into their mind.
3. We protect their spirits.
What does that mean? Their dignity. Their self-esteem. You protect your children’s dignity and you protect their self-esteem and their spirit, their self-worth. You realize the power of your words.
. A kid can break a leg or an arm and it’ll heal but some of you are still under a curse today because your dad or mom growing up said, “You’re never going to amount to anything.”
John Eldridge has written a wonderful book called Wild At Heart in which he says “Most men go through life reacting to what he calls the father wound.” Which is every boy growing up wants to have his manhood affirmed.
There’s only one person who can affirm it. That’s his dad. If he doesn’t get it there he gets it in a dozen different ways. Trying to get his manhood affirmed. He lives his entire life trying to compensate for something his dad never said. “You’re ok son. You’re a man. You’re all right. You’re valuable.”
1 Peter 5:2-3, Peter’s writing to pastors but the advice applies to all leaders – moms and dads. “Nurture, guard, and guide the flock of God. [That includes your kids.] That is your responsibility. Not domineering as arrogant or dictatorial or overbearing persons. But being examples and patterns and models of Christian living.”
Those of you who are single women, if you ever marry or you choose to marry because you want to get married, I would encourage you, look for a man like this. Not domineering, arrogant, dictatorial, overbearing, but being an example, pattern, and model of Christian living.