Why Are You So Angry?
Monday, April, 11, 2016 | 4:00 PM | by Pastor Rick
Proverbs 17:27 says this “A wise person uses few words...” As a person who speaks publically all the time, I have noticed that I cannot put my foot in my mouth when it’s closed. And neither can you. The average man speaks 25,000 words a day. The average woman speaks 30,000 words a day. That’s why, guys, when you get home at night, your wife still has 5,000 more words, and she needs to use them up. So listen. Psalm 141:3, “Lord, help me control my tongue; help me to be careful what I say.” That’s a great verse to put in our mind.
Words are like a tube of toothpaste. If I squeeze a tube of toothpaste, what’s going to come out? Toothpaste. OK, listen up this is not that hard a question! When you squeeze your life, your heart, you know what comes out? Whatever’s inside.
So when we are under stress we must guard what comes out of us. Pressure always reveals what’s inside. None of us like to admit that. But it’s the truth. We see these things coming out of our mouths and we say “I don’t know where that came from!” The truth is it came from inside of us. So the key is to change our heart. The key is to change what’s inside. So what do you do? How do you make a difference? You let God’s Spirit fill your life. The key is to be filled with God’s Spirit.
The Bible says in Galatians 5:22 “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” That’s the fruit of God’s Spirit in his children’s lives. I have found that when I’m filled with myself, when I’m filled with Rick almost anything can upset me. In fact, I can make up things that will upset me when I’m filled with myself. But if I’m filled with God’s Spirit, almost nothing will upset me. Because I’m filled with his love, his joy, his peace.
- A dirty secret in millions of homes is out of control anger.
Last year four million wives were beaten by their husbands. That is unacceptable. Last year in America ten million children were beaten by their parents. That is unacceptable. Anger in our homes has to be dealt with.
The Bible says in James 4:6 “God gives grace to the humble.” Grace is the power you need to change.
You may say Rick, “I know I’ve got this problem but I can’t talk about it”. Then it’s already out of control. Any problem you can’t talk honestly about in your life, whether its pornography or anger or lust or greed or whatever it is, panic, whatever the problem is in your life it doesn’t really matter. If you can’t talk about it, it’s already out of control.
The starting point is for you to own up. I have seen people released from the power of uncontrolled anger. You can get over this. You can relearn it. You don’t have to stay the same the rest of your life. You learned some bad patterns and you can unlearn them. And you can learn some new patterns. If you’ll just be willing to humble yourself and let God help you.
How does God help me mange my anger? He goes to the heart of the matter. When I get angry my mouth just reveals what’s inside my heart.
- A harsh tongue reveals an angry heart. It just shows what’s inside of me.
- A negative tongue reveals a fearful heart.It just shows what’s inside of me.
- A boasting tongue reveals an insecure heart.It’s always the heart.
- An overactive tongue reveals an unsettled heart.
- A judgmental tongue reveals a guilty heart.The most judgmental people are those who feel guilty the most.
- A critical tongue reveals a bitter heart.It’s always showing what’s inside.
- A filthy tongue reveals an impure heart.
On the other hand, an encouraging tongue reveals:
- A happy heart; and a gentle tongue reveals a loving heart;
- A controlled tongue reveals a peaceful heart.
You know what you need to get rid of your anger problem? Do you know what you need to do to become immune to the button pushers in your life? You need a heart transplant.
Fortunately God specializes in them. It’s called salvation. God gives you a brand new heart and he gives you a brand new identity. All of a sudden I’m not trying to find my identity in my job or in my bank account or in my good looks or in my talent or in my relationships, all of which I can lose. But I find my identity in what God says about me. Then you can’t push my buttons anymore, because I don’t care as deeply as I did about what you think.
Will you pray this prayer? “Dear God, I admit I have a problem with my anger and I let other people push my buttons and I get even and I retaliate and I fight back and I don’t think before speaking. I’m asking for your help. Help me to reflect before reacting. Help me to learn to release my anger appropriately. Help me to find my identity completely in you.
I open myself completely to you. I repent of my sins. I want to follow you in obedience. I let go and let you have complete control of life. I desire for you to be the Lord of my life. I believe you died on the Cross for my sins and on the third day God raised you to life. Save me, change me. Make the changes that only you can make. Amen”. If you prayed this prayer or would like more information on the Cross filled life contact me at email@example.com